Click Here to submit an article for our blog.
Note: The views and opinions expressed here are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the position of the Morris County Chamber of Commerce.
By John Allen Mollenhauer "JAM", Performance Lifestyle Coach
What Are You Living For? In other words, what are you up to in this life, and are you clear on how you need to live to achieve that? That question reflects what matters to you, what you value, and where you’re going. Answer the question, what you are you living for? and you will almost immediately be able to determine, why your life and style of living it is the way it is, the level you are playing at and so much more.
Most people don’t expect that to be the first question a lifestyle coach will ask them, but when you’re a “performance” lifestyle coach helping people live in balance with vibrant health and peace of mind so they can achieve their aspiring and ambitious goals. That’s it.
Most people expect to be asked about their food, their exercise, maybe their rest and stress… (And, of course, all of that plenty more is essential. At some point I/we at Lifestyle Coach ask about and delve into your fundamentals—extensively!) But not as the very first thing.
I start with wanting to know what you’re up to in this likely one and done physical life. What’s so important to you, you have a fear of not realizing this in your life?
Here’s why. I’m interested in helping you develop the lifestyle that’s going to help you fulfill that God-inspired dream. I’m a champion for you to have the energy, the vibrant health, and performance capabilities almost everyone dreams of, but struggles with attaining or maintaining (despite all the hacks you discover each day, jadedly hoping they will work…) And I’m all about you being inspired by what it takes.
It’s attainable. Especially if you start where you are with this profound question—What are you living for? and then do some potent work with the answer.
I learned early on that deeply working with this question and the following questions it inspires like “What is most important to you? What do you value?” … is a highly overlooked “dynamic”—the secret sauce that drives a person to make changes, and improvements that optimize the way they live, to last. And feel happy. Like it was a CHOICE.
When you connect THIS (your lifestyle) with THAT, what you love and care about most—what is motivating for you—with how you take care of your body, your lifestyle and progress, that is transformative. You can experience doing what works for your body as a joy.
On the other hand, if you don’t cover that step, living “healthy,” let along optimally almost always remains a grudging bunch of scattered things— a drudgery of eyes-rolling-back-in-your-head “to-dos” and I-know-I-have-to’s that never quite come together. Sadly, that’s how it is for many folks. (Trust me, been there done that.)
Here’s what I’ve observed (let me know if this rings true for you—or at least let yourself know):
Most people have their lives divvied up, fragmented, and separated from the key connections that make the difference between good intentions and a joyful follow-through.
Over HERE, you have what matters to you. Like, REALLY matters, so deeply, it’s at once the tenderest and most powerful force in your life (whether you give conscious attention to that every day or not). It’s your heart of hearts. Your highest aspirations. How you see life and what it is all about. What you want to accomplish and achieve in your time here. What you ardently want to give—to your family and the world. What you value, cherish, and revere.
And over THERE…. completely isolated, detached, in another compartment…you have your “health stuff.” Your “DIET.” Your “EXERCISE.” Your PLAN. Your PROGRAM. Your REGIMEN. Your trial (and error). (Plus, all the bio hacks, strategies, bells, whistles, doohickeys, and doodads you hear about and try, stabbing in the dark.)
Your LIFE, especially your most fertile and deep life, is over here. And your health “efforts” are over there. Things You Have To Do. Should Do. Want To Try. etc. They are just… Things.
And the pair never meet… you never establish the “do this, get that” relationship that happens when for example, you get a good night’s sleep, so that you function and show up as your most powerful self from eyes open to eyes closed.
Until I come along and start talking about an idea called “performance lifestyle” that bridges the gap between your health and success by asking this question…. what are you living for?
One of the things I do that is different (and crucial) is I help you BRIDGE THAT GAP. Because that disconnect is the drain-suck of motivation; it’s what makes the difference between what you do and why, how you do it and when, at what level, intensity, and consistency you need and want to produce amazing results in your life.
I help you deeply, powerfully unite the do THIS, get THAT relationship that will take good care of you your body, and your life well for the duration. You’ll come to see that any division between what you are up to in your life, and how you care for yourself, and your body is false. This and that need to be a seamless whole. How you care for yourself and Your life and dreams and are inextricably melded.
And if you see and treat them as detached, all the “doing” in the world (even IF it’s correct, which is another chat) will probably not be enjoyable, probably not work or make sense, and probably not last as you hit the wall from constant tiredness, exhaustion, fatigue, and the lame decisions that come from coping with inevitable stress, in ways that create more stress!
I have a process that not only firmly roots you in what matters to you but CONNECTS that to every lifestyle choice you make. You build such a robust, vivid, profound link between how you live and what you MOST want in your life—what most deeply moves you—that you’re compelled to change, improve, and optimize the way you live, without resistance, in service to what you are up to in the world... with your family, your career or business, your sport or art…
You begin to see that your energy, health, your body, and your performance, are your life. It’s not separate from what matters to you. It’s interlocked, like links in a chain.
You develop this bond between how you manage your energy, fuel, and condition yourself, what you say yes and no to… and what you want most and are here to do. Your real goals, not some inch-deep, “scatter of a bunch of stuff you have to/for its own sake” health goal. (i.e., “keep the ‘pounds’ off” is not a juicy goal). It actually isn’t even a real goal, but rather by-products of living well.
Those deeper reasons are naturally influential, and so you naturally begin powering, FUELING, and conditioning yourself to realize those passions.
And that is how you achieve what many health authorities bemoan as impossible: to WANT what’s good for you and what you are up to in the world, which delivers what you really want! Which is a beautiful thing. a wonderful life—vital, energized, expressed, joyful.
If you don’t believe that’s possible, don’t take my word for it. I’ve got countless testimonials from real people who say it is—spanning over two decades, who have been learning how to live a balanced and healthy, high performance lifestyle to one degree or another.
This is one of the TOP missing pieces in most fitness and health approaches, let alone an approach to achieving the goals in your life-family, career or business, sport, or creative art. I’ve been saying that since the early 2000’s (when as an athlete, I was always preparing for events and just crushing it.) Only dealing with the “event” doesn’t do it. You must live into the events of your life and that’s how you show up at your best.
Sure, people who work with me learn a TON about “what to do and why, how do to do it and when….” (And what’s relevant, meaningful, and actionable.) We figure out what you need as you go through the never-before-assembled Performance Lifestyle® curriculum that is part of the community and academy I assembled to help entrepreneurs, business owners and professionals learn what it means to live in balance with vibrant health and peace of mind while achieving even their most ambitious goals.
You learn how to how to manage your energy, which is usually the lowest-hanging fruit, and it prepares you for the high-impact stuff that will make you look, feel, and perform better fastest.
We learn how to distinguish aimless random “hacks” and other minutiae from vital foundational keys. Pillars from the puny tactic. Solid ground from over the top “maybe someday that would matter if you were actually doing the basics.”
You learn how to INTEGRATE the essentials of healthy, high-performance, for balanced living. And that includes, but goes way beyond food and movement and sleep, alone, the full scope of most fitness and wellness approaches.
You’ll learn how a spirit and energy-driven body/brain affect how you think, and act across every aspect of your lifestyle, and how to get every aspect working together—for you, not against you–so you achieve the life results you want. For real.
We learn all that, yes…. but know this, you’ve got to go through a whole lifestyle training, you were never made aware of before because one or two trick ponies don’t get the results. You’ve got to get the floorboards down. The foundation, the terra firma; the complete tracks need to be laid unless you want to chaise your tale for a whole bunch more years you’re never going to get back.
The “What are you living for?” question, that reveals, what matters, what’s important to you, and what you don’t want to waste any more time avoiding because you just don’t have the horsepower or the clarity to realize.
Figuring out what you most need is kind of worthless if you’re not going to then GIVE that to yourself—reliably.
And that’s why I start with “what are you living for? not “what you should eat” or “which workout you should do,” or “how do I sleep better,” more, etc.
People have been telling you that stuff for years—plans, tips, lists, instructions, hacks, yadda—and it probably hasn’t worked out that great, other than accumulating a “word salad” in your head and a little experience. It’s like getting showered with maps when you have no freaking idea where you’re even going—or you’re only vaguely, abstractly connected to where you’re going. It doesn’t work. What it does is keep you chasing your tail, in operation money suck, and life lack and I’m sure you’re both done with that, and ready to get it and get on with your life.
All the what’s, why’s, how to’s and when’s for you… will all come at the highest level of effectiveness, step by step as you recognize that your human performance is really a lifestyle and then you orient your life around the fundamentals of successful living for a near optimal style of living, that becomes your new “normal.” Something you don’t even have to think about.
Look—I don’t just want people to be vibrantly healthy, high-performing lives. I go a step further. I want you to live in balance with vibrant health and peace of mind while achieving even your most ambitious goals, and LOVE getting there. I want you to make it a CHOICE. A Gift, vs. a chore.
That’s my bold, audacious, and very joyful promise. 🙂
WHAT DO YOU THINK? Have you come to the realization yet that your deepest values and purpose and passion in life is separated and segregated from all that it takes to realize it?
Meanwhile, you’re distracted with all kinds of hidden lifestyle challenges that holding you back.
Constant tiredness or fatigue?
Devaluing sleep and recovery?
Trying to work at peak, all week?
Wrestling with a mental load you can’t escape?
Reaching for anything to help you, feel, think, look, and perform better?
Is “…sleep, diet and exercise… a disjointed THING you grind away at, in a separate compartment from the “why” you would be inspired to sleep, eat and exercise… like a pro? Or do they “meet” in your life? Are they harmoniously one in a way that’s propelling your forward?
Let me know—I really care about this for you, because I know what it’s like to live a life when all that I needed to take care of me, my body, and my life were separate from what I was up to in the world, and I want to you steer clear of those consequences.
Check-in with me at my Facebook group: What are you living for? Your family’s success, to becoming super successful on the corporate ladder climb? Building a business that’s super successful and gives you amazing time freedom? To play your favorite sport and maybe even be competitive? To share a message or another creation with the world?
To living your God-inspired dreams.
P.S. If you want to finally bridge the gap between your health and success, and have the energy and clarity, you’ve been waiting seemingly forever for so you can achieve what you’re living for, without all the hidden lifestyle challenges distracting and holding you back; I can inspire, educate, and support you in resolving those challenges.
I can help you pull all that together into a balanced and healthy high performance lifestyle you can call your own that comes with ease and grace and powers your dreams so you can win the second half. And I’ll save you up to 20 years or more in the process. And if you are in the second half of your work life or life itself, those are years you don’t want to lose.
I’d love to answer your questions about that and help you see if it’s a fit for you right now—book some time here or call 973-535-8750. We’ll set a time for a brief but illuminating conversation. 🙂
As “client zero,” JAM was desperate to develop “a practice of all essential lifestyle practices” to develop a better way to live and work. And in that process, assembled the principle, practices, and ultimately the 5 lifestyle strategies all healthy, high achieving people know and live by to thrive, so people like him could fulfill their God-inspired dreams with their health and wellbeing intact!
JAM is a leading Performance Lifestyle Coach and authority on living the High–Performance Lifestyle® with an online training community & academy that teaches people how to manage their energy and optimize the way they live.
Lifestyle Coach℠ helps you get free of the hidden lifestyle challenges that distract and hold you back from living your full potential as you optimize the way you live for energy, health, and high performance. Performance Lifestyle Inc. is currently based in Livingston, NJ, where he and his team run RegenUS Center to help you restore your life force energy. For a complimentary strategy session with JAM or a Member of the Lifestyle Coach team, click here.
Learn how to live a balanced, and healthy, high-performance lifestyle you can call your own.
Please Note: The views and opinions expressed here are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the position of the Morris County Chamber of Commerce.
325 Columbia Turnpike, Suite 101
Florham Park, NJ 07932
973.539.3882 | CONTACT US | MAP
Our office is currently closed, but something is happening at the Chamber virtually everyday!
Your Success is Our Mission! Membership connects you to timely information, valuable resources, opportunities for business growth and rewarding relationships with your fellow members, in-person and virtually! Your investment in a Morris Chamber membership provides a stable foundation that allows us to serve you: the people who power Morris County's businesses and community. Join Us or Renew Today!