Are You Leading or Stuck in Reactive Tendencies?

By Deb Wijnberg​, Crothers Consulting
​Your calendar is packed. You’re firefighting issues, reviewing details, jumping into team discussions, even rewriting project docs yourself. You’re busy, really busy. But are you truly leading?  Many leaders unintentionally fall into Reactive Tendencies, patterns of behavior that feel productive in the moment but ultimately limit effectiveness, disempower teams, and lead to burnout. 

They’re not signs of laziness or incompetence. More often, they’re overextensions of good intentions. According to recent research, 56% of leaders reported burnout in 2024, up from 52% in 2023. The pressure is real—and so is the cost of staying stuck in reactive patterns.

Understanding Reactive Leadership 
 
The Leadership Circle Profile groups these common patterns into three categories:  
 
1. Controlling: Driving for Results, But at a Cost 
This shows up when leaders over-rely on perfectionism, autocracy, or ambition. 
“It’s faster if I just do it myself.”  
Leaders caught here micromanage details, hold tightly to decision-making, and push themselves (and their teams) past sustainable limits. The intent is strong performance, but the result is often bottlenecks and burnout, not to mention the unintended consequences on team members, such as decreased productivity, engagement and commitment to stay.   
 
2. Protecting: Playing It Safe 
Protecting behaviors stem from a need to stay in control emotionally, avoid vulnerability, or shield oneself against criticism. 
“I need to prove my value by being involved everywhere.” 
When protecting, leaders can hold back authentic communication, limit risk-taking, and often miss opportunities to build trust through transparency. What starts as self-protection often limits connection and innovation. 
 
3. Complying: Seeking Harmony Over Impact 
Complying behaviors are driven by a desire to please, fit in, or avoid conflict. 
“I’ll just take this on, so I don’t let anyone down.” 
Leaders here over-function for others, avoid hard conversations, and sacrifice strategic priorities for short-term harmony, quietly draining energy and effectiveness. 
 
The Shift: From Reactive to Creative 
Breaking free from Reactive Tendencies requires a shift: from doing and proving, to enabling and empowering. 
 
Creative leaders: 
1. Build strengths-based teams. 
2. Provide clarity of direction. 
3. Foster ownership and accountability. 
4. Coach others to rise into their own leadership. 
When leaders move from reactive to creative, they multiply the impact of their entire team. 
 
Letting Go to Lead 
At Crothers Consulting, we help leaders recognize and release these reactive patterns. We work with you to:  
- Diversify control: trusting/empowering others and loosening perfectionism. 
- Open up: moving from protecting oneself, to authentic connection. 
- Prioritizing impact: shifting from pleasing to leading with clarity. 
Through our other programs, including Trust is Key to Strong Organizations, we guide leaders to leverage their teams, technology, and resources so they can focus on what truly matters: strategy, people, and sustainable results. 
 
Reflection: 
1. Which Reactive Tendency do I slip into most often: Controlling, Protecting, or Complying? 
2. What’s one thing I could stop doing today to give my team more ownership/empowerment? 
3. Where can I shift from proving my value to empowering others to step up? 
Drop your thoughts in the comments, so we can learn and grow together.